Why Do Men Cheat
July 30, 2009 Filed under getting ex back
Are men really born polygamous? It seems that our society has just accepted the fact that men can not live with just one partner in their lives. It is true that not all men commit infidelity, but in reality, more than half of the male population cheated on their partner. It is as if that it is in their nature to collect women and show off as trophies.
There are a number of reasons why men cheat on their partner. Fear of commitment is the number one motive of men’s infidelity. They want someone to take care of him but do not like to be perceived as being married or stuck with only one person for the rest of his life. Some men just have the craving or desire for different women. They are simply bored with their life and want sexual variety or a different kind of thrill. Although, they love their wife or girlfriend, they still want to taste a different kind of adventure from other women.
Another reason of men’s infidelity is that they have a feeling of unhappiness. They feel that their mate has not been very giving when it comes to their special moments together. Men do not want to feel lonely and neglected. If their partner can not offer some satisfaction or if their emotional needs were not fulfilled, men will definitely look at the other side of the fence.
Some guys are just shallow. If they noticed that their partner is a bit lazy to take care of their physical look, they will just give up and cheat. Others will blame the cheating act to their unattractive or overweight wife or girlfriend. So, for women who want to get their ex-boyfriend back, love and take care of your own self first.
In several occasions, men cheat because of their low self-esteem. This usually happens when men reach their prime age. They want to prove to their friends or even to their own self that they are still irresistible and appealing especially to younger women. They also want some new adventures and some kind of assurance that they are still young at heart despite their age.
Men also cheat because of their nagging wife or girlfriend. Some may say that after a hard day’s at work, they just want to go home to relax and unwind. It is true that after a couple got married for several years, the wife may develop a nagging routine and men usually get tired of that irritating attitude. Nagging wives should better come prepared as men can easily be tempted with women who are sweet, caring, and understanding.
Lastly, guys have the tendency to cheat when they know that their partner can easily forgive and forget. They have this fixed notion in their minds that committing adultery or infidelity is worth the risk and can be easily disregarded.
John Doe on Fri, 21st Aug 2009 6:25 pm
As a 33 year old male that is searching for the reasons why I am the way I am, I stumbled across this article. Every reason described above is me, although my wife is not a nag and she does take care of herself physically. I’ve tried talking to her about my needs, she is well aware of my insecurities with my weight or appearance, although I do think most of that is in my own head, I am very critical about myself. My wife has become more independent since we married because my work takes me away from home frequently. When I am home I don’t feel like she’s attracted to me, and when I’m gone I get lonely and even more starved for attention. I’ll go have a few drinks, feel better about myself and enjoy flirting like I use to…sometimes with co-workers or people I trust. Sometimes flirting turns into more and sometimes it doesn’t. If it doesn’t I feel more rejected and the feelings I have about myself and my image are reinforced and confirmed. If flirting does turn into more, I feel reassured that these images of myself are all in my headm, but then I wonder why my wife can’t feel this way towards me and I sink in to yet a different kind of depression, worthlessness and failure. I’ll watch porn when I’m away from home or away from my wife to expend some of the built up frustration, but the feelings of lonleyness are still there and eventually I begin needing something more real. When flirting is just flirting it is fun. I think I am in control and will be able to just stop when the time comes to say goodnight because I do love my wife, but there are times that is not the case. I feel like I am on an emotional self-esteem roller coaster that never stops and is fueld by my need for physical attention and self-worth. I could never tell my wife what I’ve done to her, I would be too embarrassed to tell her how bad it has gotten over the years and it seems easier and more manageable to keep it inside, but at the same time nothing is getting better and nothing is getting fixed.